We always want to say and hear “Yes”, but it is not necessary to say “Yes” always. People hesitate to say “No”, but sometimes we should learn to say “No”, in fact, there is a situation where we have to say “No”, we shouldn’t care about anything in that situation. This shows our determination, will power, self-confidence and self-respect.
The Situations when you need to say “No”
There are several situations when you need to say “No”. For instance, in this corporate world, if you are ready to do any task at any time, may be, because you are afraid to say “No” or to please your boss 🙂 , it can be ended up with hampering your personal life & health. Since you will be always “On” to do any task, the people/ your boss will take it granted, and you have to do compromise somewhere to finish the task. You may be the star employee of your group, but in some place you will be loosing something. I think, you should learn here to say “No”, as it will not effect your personal life and also in a way, it will give chance to others.
In some situation, you can consider the priorities, like in case of your planned family trip, if your friend wants you to go with him/her for boozing, watching movies, sporting bla bla…, you can say “No” to him/her considering your priorities of having family trip.
How to say “No”
There are few tips to say “No” :-
- Keep your response simple. If you want to say no, be firm and direct. Use phrases such as “Thanks for coming to me but I’m afraid it’s not convenient right now” or “I’m sorry but I can’t help this evening.” Try to be strong in your body language and don’t over-apologize. Remember, you’re not asking permission to say no.
- Buy yourself some time. Interrupt the ‘yes’ cycle, using phrases like “I’ll get back to you,” then consider your options. Having thought it through at your leisure, you’ll be able to say no with greater confidence.
- Consider a compromise. Only do so if you want to agree with the request, but have limited time or ability to do so. Avoid compromising if you really want or need to say no.
- Separate refusal from rejection. Remember you’re turning down a request, not a person. People usually will understand that it is your right to say no, just as it is their right to ask the favor.
- Don’t feel guilty for saying no to your children. It is important for them to hear no from time to time so that they develop a sense of self-control. It is hard to negotiate adult life without this important skill. Rather than cave in to their protests, let them know who is in charge by setting boundaries. Family time is important though.
- Be true to yourself. Be clear and honest with yourself about what you truly want. Get to know yourself better and examine what you really want from life.
Advantages of saying “No”
Before finishing this topic, let me explain my views of advantages of saying “No”.
When you say “No” to something, you are at that very moment saying “Yes” to something else. That something else might be coming in the form of your dreams, aspirations or quality time with family/ relatives. In other words, you freeing up space in your own life.
Saying “No” means you are keeping your life balanced. Having too many commitments and being at the whim of other people’s request means that you don’t have direct control over your own life and responsibilities.
Finally, when you say “No”, it means you valued your own personal boundaries.
These are my views, please feel free to share your views and learn how to say “No” 🙂 .